I have officially been Mrs. Hatcher for 30 days. It seems so surreal… Like it still hasn’t set in in some ways. Technically speaking, not a lot changed. We’ve been together for almost two years now, have lived in this house for a little over a year, so day to day functions really aren’t that different than they were on October 16th.
Mentally though, a lot has changed. I’m a wife now, and that means I’m not just thinking about myself anymore. Matt and I are a team. And I think most days we’re a pretty good team if I do say so myself…
In honor of our first month of marriage, here are 10 lessons I’ve learned in the first month of marriage:
- It will probably take a while to remember my last name isn’t Davis anymore
- Filling out the paperwork to change my last name is a daunting task
- I’m not just looking out for what’s best for me anymore. “For the Sake of You” was the theme of our ceremony, and will continue to be the theme of our marriage.
- Evenings are my favorite time of day. He walks in the door while I’m working on dinner with the cheesiest smile on his face, like I’m the light of his life.
- Matt has learned that I don’t mind a messy house occasionally, but there will be times, completely unexpected where I’ll go on a cleaning frenzy and clean everything in sight. And yet he still loves me…
- Occasionally we’ll go see a movie that the other one wants to see… And sometimes we’ll really enjoy that movie… Inside Out was my choice for a movie, and the song from the short at the beginning ended up in the wedding.
- We hold each other accountable. When I lived alone, it was okay if the dishes didn’t get done or that I spent my entire day off watching netflix. Now I have to make sure laundry gets done, puppies get taken care of and dinner gets made. I’m not complaining, I love doing those things.
- Even though “Netflix and chill” really does mean watching multiple episodes of Law and Order and snuggling on the couch, those are really my favorite nights.
- Marriage definitely is a lesson in patience. Again, I’m not just looking out for myself anymore. There’s another person in the mix. I’m thinking about his wants and needs, his schedules, etc. And since I’m an obsessive planner and have to write EVERYTHING down way in advance… his impulsiveness is definitely an adjustment, but one that I love!
- Spontaneity really is good for the soul, which is why I love Matt’s impetuous nature. If it were up to me, I’d have every minute planned from here until May. And trust me, we’d be following it to the T. But sometimes it’s great to be like, “we’re going to road trip to Salt Lake City this weekend (which we have done… with the two dogs in the back of the brand new jeep…). Matt is bringing me out of my comfort zone and allowing me to live outside my little organized bubble. And I think I actually like it.
30 days down, forever to go. I know I’m obviously in no way an expert on marriage. I don’t have everything figured out. But I’m learning. We’re learning. I think, in all reality, the best part of marriage is not having everything together. It’d be boring otherwise. We’re good for each other because we teach each other things we’d never figure out on our own. At our wedding, our best man gave a speech, and part of what she said really resounded with me. (I don’t remember word for word what she said, but this was the general idea) She said marriage isn’t about completing one another, it’s about complementing one another. I am my own person, and Matt is his own person. We didn’t need each other to become a whole
person. Marriage is helping us make the other a better person.